It is really hard to understand some things that happen around us and with us... For example - take relationships. Lies and misunderstandings are the ones that make relationships extra hard for us - to cope or just to be around and make a "nice" face while being so sad and crushed you just want to die. Really, it happens and what if it happens not just once in two months period but constantly - let's say for one month straight?! Right now I'm talking from woman's point of view as I really do not have any idea what men are thinking - no offense if some was taken! Anyway... you meet a guy you fall in love and things could not be any better until after some time... BANG! things fall apart - yet so quietly you at first don't even notice. Well... you love someone and you just want things to be great great great and never change - but change is inevitable, which is why one just needs to show some direction towards what a change is wanted to be taken...
Any fool can tell the truth, but it requires a man of some sense to know how to lie well!
Keeping secrets from one another requires great wisdom. Because secrets actually do come out and do hurt either way the other person. Breaking up is easy, but to patch things up takes some real time and real courage. But why are secrets occurring? Why one can't lie THAT good that secrets won't come out - because then things would be immaculate and perfect? Wouldn't they?
I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you.
This is a quote that goes perfectly with my point I'm trying to get to - I personally am not that crushed of the lying but the fact that you do get more suspicious than you were before. Lying does not go without consequences - although we all have our dirty little secrets that no-one really knows. we have those little lies we think no-one should know - not even our closest ones. But isn't it so that when keep in secret talking to someone - having secretive phone calls (however your girlfriend did know that you were lying about who you were talking), secretive messaging... WTF?! - seeing that the one you're with is not a brain dead moron you ought to act accordingly. Well... phone calls for phone calls and messaging to messaging BUT when you are fronted by the fact that you lied and you were noticed you do not turn it against the one who actually realized it but you try to make things better! Isn't it logical? So that leaves me with a question... Is it normal or is it ridiculous - trying to ignore the fact that you did something wrong by showing in some way to the other person that the she was wrong to find out that you were keeping secrets? Does it show some conscience or does it show how "small" the lier is to actually try not to answer for the deeds been done by not telling the whole truth by insulting the other person by saying that the other one is a moron and should apologize for confronting him and letting him know about finding out what was going on!?
All in all - we are the ones who need to make some changes if we want to and we, personally, are the ones who actually change together with time - whether we bring new things into our change with us and leave the past behind is up to any one of us individually...
But really - if you NEED to have secrets and YOU DESPERATELY want them to stay that way - be a bit more wiser and artistic (wisdom to know when and where to interact and deal with your secret and art to know how to patch some visibility in your path where some parts of your secrets have come out). Actually writing about it did make me feel a bit better... getting it all out of the system... did purify the situation in a sense... BUT when things after all the "stupidity" turn to a more positive way - it does make me feel better and it does make me feel as if things are again fine... however - a bit of a doubt still lies within, but this is a bridge to be crossed in time... :)
When you make a mistake, don't look back at it long. Take the reason of the thing into your mind and then look forward. Mistakes are lessons of wisdom. The past cannot be changed. The future is yet in your power.
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